— Cat 5 (@theUcane) February 12, 2015
That’s me on Twitter. Here are just some of the many ways in which being a #childfree couple is selfLESS—and not selfish as the childless Pope claims:
- We are not adding to the 7-billion and growing number of humans on this planet. Earth is dying and humans are the cause. Those who have children/grands need to realize that their legacies might very well witness the end of this planet.
- Smaller house.
- Smaller/fewer cars.
- We are never too busy to recycle, even if we have to schlep over to the hazardous waste center once in a while.
- Less food consumed.
- Less trash produced. However many diapers a kid goes through….they aren’t in the landfills because of us.
We aren’t using gallons-upon-gallons of water to wash cloth reusables.
- Speaking of water, it is a very precious resource, so we are conservative (and working on being even better). That’s easy to do with just two.
- We are sick less often, so we are less of a burden on any workforce for missed days of work.
- Since we are sick less often, the buck stops with us for the spreading of germs; we stay home. We have the sick time to do so because we didn’t use it up when our kids were sick.
- We never burden our friends with stories of pregnancy/labor/delivery or the horrifically gross and boring stories of potty training.
- We live smaller (not just the house/car but wholly) than parents. Less plastic (reusable snack and juice boxes, toys). Less consumables, in general. We use less batteries (and then we recycle the ones we do use at that hazardous waste center instead of being too busy and letting them go into the landfill).
- While we will take part in “parenting” our own parents, we will never put that burden on to someone else.
- We live within our means. Kids are expensive. If we had kids, we’d take on (lots of) debt. That is not responsible.
- We are not passing on any genetic traits/conditions to humanity’s future. Humanity doesn’t need my family lines of heart disease, diabetes, blood pressure, cholesterol, and even suicide.
- Because we aren’t burdened by the time commitment of children, we are better citizens of our world. We give time where our skills can be of use.
We don’t assume we are the be-all-and-end-all to humanity and “the future”. No, we aren’t spawning the next Charles Darwin, Albert Einstein, Steve Jobs, or Rosa Parks; no one in their right mind thinks we would. Our kid would not find the cure for cancer; our kid would like gaming, movies, and some music and spectator sports. In short, our kids would be couch potatoes. We also aren’t “giving” the world the next Jeffrey Dahmer, Adolf Hitler, George Zimmerman, or Casey Anthony. In fact, we aren’t even giving the universe more Es and Ls. You’re welcome, Earth, Milky Way, and beyond.
And here is the one that drives the point home, every time: Please describe why you think having kids is a good thing without using “I” or “want”. Not easy, is it?
The decision to have kids or not is purely personal. The Pope and other leaders need to stop chastising those who don’t have/want kids.
No wonder I stopped being religious/christian, nevermind Catholic. Hey Pope, the giant hat makes you look like an ass, but your condescending attitude makes you sound like one, too.